Is Marriage Counseling Right for You?

Is Marriage Counseling Right for You?

Posted on August 6th, 2015

While you may be considering divorce in Nevada, you’re also likely to be wondering whether your marriage can be saved. If you find yourself dwelling on that question often—or if you’d simply like to settle your affairs more smoothly—it may be wise to consider marriage counseling first. Below is a  marriage counseling checklist that you can use to determine if counseling in Nevada is right for you.

Marriage Counseling Checklist

Counseling May Help You If…

You still share a mutual respect for each other

You both are still able to see the good in each other

You believe that working on fixing what you have may be less risky that dealing with issues that may come with a new relationship with someone else

The problems in your relationship are based on communication, finances, trust issues, or other issues you could potentially work through

You are still trying to decide whether divorce is the right choice or not

Your problems cause high emotions when discussed and you need/want a third party present to help coach you through it or referee the conversation

You and your spouse have discussed going to counseling before

One or both of you have attended counseling previously

You are both willing to go to counseling AND be truthful about what’s going on in your relationship

Counseling May NOT Be Advisable If…

One or both of you is unwilling to be truthful about feelings and behavior

One or both of you blame the other and is completely unwilling to accept any responsibility or to change

Your spouse is physically abusive and continued association is unsafe (abuse is an issue for the abuser to work on in a specialized counseling program)

Your spouse is emotionally, verbally or psychologically abusive (because it may not be safe to talk about your feelings when you could be hurt later and blamed for what you said in counseling)

Other types of counseling (i.e., abuse counseling, addiction counseling, financial counseling or specialized communication training) might be more appropriate for your situation

Counseling Resources

Nevada Divorce Guide

Gloria Petroni published the Nevada Divorce Guide, a map for those individuals looking for straight- forward ways of navigating the challenges of concluding a divorce with the end in mind. Thirty-four years of experience in family law has allowed Gloria to write a guide that gives a 360 degree view of the divorce process.

Psychology Today

Psychology Today provides a directory of therapists that is searchable by state. You can also search based on the type of counseling you need, including: addiction, anger management, divorce, domestic abuse, family conflict, infidelity, relationship issues and more.

 The Gottman Institute

According to the Gottman Institute, “Our research shows that to make a relationship last, couples must become better friends, learn to manage conflict, and create ways to support each other’s hopes for the future. Drs. John and Julie Gottman have shown how couples can accomplish this by paying attention to what they call the Sound Relationship House, or the seven components of healthy relationships.” Qualified therapists conduct retreats around the country throughout the year.

The Nevada Divorce Guide

The Nevada Divorce Guide aims to give individuals a 360 degree view of the entire divorce process. Reno family law attorney Gloria Petroni understands that a divorce can be a major traumatic event and involves a high degree of emotion. Nothing can fully prepare you for a divorce, but this book can gives a detailed explanation of all the divorce components in straight talk, for real people who are not professionals in the divorce arena. Copies are available for purchase at the Sundance Bookstore in Reno, Nevada. Stop in today or fill out a form online to order the Nevada Divorce Guide. You can read check out other excerpts from the guide below:

Should You Keep A Divorce Journal?

How to Handle Child Custody Issues